Childhood Wounds
(or ways to improve our present-day relationships)
You might be familiar with the five love languages, but have you heard of childhood wounds? Similar to identifying love languages, writes comic artist Brittany Long Olsen, discussing childhood wounds can be a useful framework for improving communication in your relationships.
"It was a total lightbulb moment when my partner and I discussed the ways we wish we had been loved as kids and realized we could give that to each other as adults," she writes.
Could this framework be useful in your own relationships? Read this heartfelt, short and beautifully conceived feature.
Excerpted from @thelilynews
Childhood wounds.
It’s not an easy thing to think about. I generally remember being pretty much left alone during my childhood, to do my own thing. I think the reasons my pursuits are so individualistic, and not team-based, is because that’s how I found myself. Since I didn’t have the ability to sparkle stardust or an attitude to throw around, I studied, I read, I wrote. And in fact it became my survival strategy - to drown myself out in the pages of a book or a notebook.
And, mainly, I jumped headlong into new things - things I didn’t know anything about. And I promised myself that even if I failed, I wouldn’t be embarrassed. And I failed, spectacularly, but learnt about the world - and about myself. And that’s what mattered.
It was my savior. And became something of my identity. And I am glad for it.
When I look back, I can see how things in my life fell into place. What seems to have been a setback, a tragedy, something which nearly broke me up, was what turned out to be a portal into what defined my life.
Nothing, NOTHING, is written in stone in life, everything, EVERYTHING, is defined by our actions and faith - that there is something which always holds us up when we leap into the inky deepness of the dark.
What was your childhood wound? Would you like to think about it? Talk about it? Share it?
Some of the previous editions, in case you missed them!
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